Revelations in Repatriation


Home sweet home: Family hike in the woods connected to our subdivision during Memorial Day weekend, one week after we moved into our new house – six months after repatriation.

This is the first part in a series of blog posts covering our process of repatriation from Korea to Michigan. Starting with the introspective and then moving into the more practical, I will take you through my and my family’s experiences in this series, as well as hopefully share some relevant wisdom from friends and colleagues who have gone through similar processes.


Michal and I, along with our kids, have been living out of our suitcases for the past six months, as we just now have settled into our new home. (Long story, short: Home-buying process took longer than expected.)

Really, in some ways, it’s felt like Michal and I have been nomads for more than a decade as each city of residence in our relationship was temporary for different reasons – two and half years in Korea for work, two years in Virginia in grad student housing, five years in Chicagoland during the dating/engagement/early marriage stages, four years in East Lansing for undergrad/before we met.

With multiple major life changes occurring simultaneously (new baby born soon after the first, moving countries, buying our first home, leasing a car, starting a job), it felt like I was continually hitting the pause button on life while everyone else would jump in and hit play. Repatriation alone is jarring because the expectation is that returning to the familiar would be easy, but it was the opposite with reverse culture shock, aching wanderlust, and re-learning how to parent in the States vs. a developing Asian country.

After finally unpacking the last box of our old life in our new home, it seemed that it was time to give this blog a fitting ending. Returning to the inspiration of Steps in Seoul, I will share how our initial homecoming plans juxtaposed with the actual outcome – and how it all happened according to God’s timing.

But first, some disclosures –

To friends and family from my former life before becoming an expat parent:

It’s taken me a while to reconnect in social circles where my identity is now more “mom” than anything else you once knew me as – writer, teacher, editor, party hostess, bar hopper, DPA Communications Chair, Yelp Elite reviewer, the expat escaping reality.

In my life “before baby” (B.B.) you may have known me to stay up late on my own volition to scrapbook for hours on end, to attend a midnight showing of Harry Potter, or to request drunk food in the form of chili cheese fries from Coney Island, noodles in Chinatown or delivery Pokey Stix from Gumby’s in East Lansing. Maybe you used to only see me on holidays during a break from school or work, and now I’m learning to “do real life with you.”

I apologize for the MIAs at those high school and college reunions, the potluck dinner parties, and nights out in Royal Oak/Ferndale/Detroit. (My second baby refuses the bottle so timing is key with those drinks and commute time.) I apologize for not keeping up with those Google chats, Facebook group messages, GroupMe messages, WhatsApp messages, WeChat messages, iMessages, or any other form of social media, as I pretty much only used Kakao the entire time I was in Korea and now I’m re-downloading apps onto a new phone with a Detroit suburb area code. (Tell me honestly – Do I really need Snapchat?)

But most of all, I apologize if I seem a bit disinterested in conversation/less loyal than I once was, as it’s likely I’m stumbling through some sleep regression stage with the infant or counting down the minutes my temporary freedom ends when one of two children will wake up from a nap, or I’m simply anxious about looking uninformed or less “with it” after being abroad for a couple years. Know that I am trying to keep up, and one day, my head and my heart will return home just as my body has.

To new or potential friends I’ve met in moms’ groups, in the neighborhood, at church:

Please educate me without judgement as I’m fumbling my way through everything related to parenting and homemaking in the States. From ordering groceries online (Clicklist appeared in the time we were gone!) and meal prepping (so did Instant Pot), to napping on the go and car seat regulations (not owning a car for five months post-repatriation while living in Motor City did not help), every aspect of motherhood has been re-learned and re-tooled.

I became a parent in Seoul, 25.6 million people when including the metro area, and it was actually safe to walk around at night. Not to mention, Korea (and most of Asia) was incredibly family-friendly/accommodating to babies in every way from being allowed to jump airport lines to finding luxurious nursing rooms in malls, train stations and grocery stores. With government-subsidized daycare and quality nanny sharing for less an hour than what I pay to get yard work done here in Michigan, I never had to fret about leaving my kids with a stranger in Seoul.

What I’ve learned since returning to the States is that motherhood here is a lot more about managing the individual family than working together to raise the future of our society at large. But it is possible to “find your tribe” and get support in unexpected ways. For instance, I’ve never had so many people offer to take care of my children for free/last-minute, while also taking care of their own. I will never forget the moments that my friends, with their own needy toddlers and infants, willingly took mine alongside theirs, expecting nothing in return.

To any potential new friends out there, know that the parameters of a friendship have been redefined for me. I’ve grown used to thinking “How long will I be here? How long will you be here? Is this worth the investment of time?” Now that we’ve bought a home in place with good schools near family, we’re likely here for the long-term, and I’m just now letting my guard down and anticipating that each person I encounter could be the mother of my child’s best friend, or even one of my new bffs.

With the uncertain, comes the certainties

In an Alpha course I completed back in March, we shared our struggles ranging from physical ailments to emotional strife, praying for each person’s restoration. At the time, Michal was traveling for business and my in-laws were about to set off on a vacation. My then-almost -2-year-old Sophia seemed to be having sporadic night terrors, while then 6-month-old Ana continued to wake every couple hours to nurse.

I asked the group for prayers related to rest — to have the energy to be the mother my kids needed me to be. That night, Michal texted me saying he would have to travel an additional week on top of the two weeks he had already been gone. Not to mention, we had just figured out bedtime routines after readjusting two jet-lagged babies post-repatriation while he traveled for his prior job in the beginning of our time back in the States. I just didn’t think I had it in me anymore.

At first instinct, I reacted to this text with “God, did you hear me?” But now in a more clear state of mind, I recall that He did provide support, despite not having actual sleep. My cousin and sister-in-law each baby sat Sophia for a couple hours during that week. A mutual friend, who I was just getting reacquainted with, generously offered to baby sit Ana, while in between jobs that week and actually ended up getting hired by a new employer in the following week. Like the “lilies in the field,” there was no need to worry:

Can any of you add a single hour to the length of your life by worrying? 

And why do you worry about clothes? Consider the lilies in the field and how they grow. They don’t work or spin yarn, but I tell you that not even Solomon in all of his splendor was clothed like one of them.

Now, if that is the way God clothes the grass in the field, which is alive today and thrown into an oven tomorrow, won’t he clothe you much better—you who have little faith?”

Matthew 6:27-30

Sometimes the anxiety in anticipation of not getting sleep or of feeling alone during those seemingly endless stretches of night is what is worse/causes me more disturbed rest. In these moments, I try to keep in mind what a friend from Korea, who I knew from a childbirth class and who had led a Bible Study I was in, once told me. She posed a question something along the lines of the following:

“Do I put my trust in what sleep will provide me, or do I trust that what God has provided me is all the sleep I need?”

More to come in following blog posts related to repatriation and God’s plans vs. my own. If you’re a fellow recovering expat who would like to pass on wisdom, please feel free to complete this questionnaire and I’ll share results soon!

15-month update: Jet-setting to Japan

Tokyo Tower

One last vacation before baby #2 arrives

At 32 weeks pregnant in the middle of a hot, humid summer with an active, curious 15-month-old who is already throwing temper tantrums, Michal and I could have easily decided to stay home in Seoul and prepare our second nursery.

But we instead squeezed in one last adventure during a recent long holiday weekend. Toddler triumphs and trials in Tokyo and Kamakura, Japan (a scenic little beach town/natural hideaway close to the big city), along with being in third trimester of my second pregnancy, made for another unforgettable international travel experience!

Planes, trains and automobiles: Transportation with a toddler

We heard from friends who are fellow expats in Tokyo that taxis are expensive (in contrast to what we’re used to paying in Seoul), so we brought a light-weight umbrella stroller and purchased a subway card right when we landed. The subway system in Tokyo reminds me of Seoul as it’s clean, efficient and modern. It is just a lot bigger and confusing to navigate at times, as we got completely lost meeting friends in Shinjuku Station.

*To clarify: When I describe taking the train in the following section, I am referring to long-haul trips or distances within a country, not quick trips on local subway lines.

Of all the trains we’ve used while I’ve been pregnant and Sophia has been an active toddler, our experience on Korea’s KTX express train from Seoul to Busan was the most comfortable and convenient with the ability to purchase tickets easily online, numerous English signage, elevators throughout the station and a diaper-changing table/nursing room on board. (I was definitely not a fan of using the train while we were in China.) Our toddler-on-a-train experiences in Japan come in a close second to train travel in Korea.

We were surprised we couldn’t buy our tickets online for the trip from Tokyo to Kamakura (about one and half hours away), as we could easily do in Korea for that type of travel. Although, there is an option to “upgrade” to nicer seats by buying “Green Car” tickets at the platform.

With luggage, a stroller/toddler and a Pack and Play (which we had to bring because we were staying at Airbnbs that couldn’t provide baby bedding), we were overwhelmed. After exhausting ourselves with much walking and up/do movement of luggage going from Haneda Airport to our first Airbnb in Tokyo, we tried to cut ourselves some slack going from Tokyo to our second Airbnb in Kamakura by using a taxi to get to the train station and giving ourselves plenty of time, as well as doing the same when en route to the airport for our final departure back to Seoul. We were thankful for all the elevators and escalators in Japan (which were more rare in China) and for the ingenuity in using the Ergo baby carrier as a harness for the Pack and Play on top of our luggage.

With our prior experiences on Asian flight carriers, we were not surprised at how accommodating the airline representatives, specifically the flight attendants, were on Japan Airlines. Many of them played with Sophia (as we scheduled flights for during her “awake periods”) with offering a variety of toys on-board and to take home. We also received bulkhead seating (score for more room, getting served food first and being near bathrooms!), and on the way to Tokyo, we even managed to get a whole row to ourselves. Lastly, we got priority baggage claim so we could be the first to grab our stuff and go!

Similar to Incheon Airport in Korea (although not as new or elaborate), the Haneda and Narita airports in Japan had padded kids’ play areas. Sophia loved going down the slide and swaying on the rocking horses. I just wished the space was more enclosed (like in Incheon) as she would randomly run away at moments and dart into the paths of travelers rushing to their gates.

Future Foodie: Dining with a toddler

An aspect we enjoyed of traveling in Japan are all the kids’ accommodations at restaurants. Kids’ menus are a bit of a rarity in Korea unless at a Western-style restaurant. In Japan, there were adorable, creative and nutritious set meals for toddlers and children at almost every restaurant we found. I was impressed many times at the level of attention, detail and courtesy we were paid.


When at a restaurant in Takashimaya Times Square, the chef created little shapes, like a Mickey Mouse head, out of rice and seaweed. When getting dessert at the free observation deck of a government building, a server made a paper crane for Sophia. When eating at a restaurant in downtown Kamakura, the kids’ meal came out with little sausages that were cut and shaped into baby octopus.

One trick we learned from my fellow expat mom friend in Tokyo concerning high chairs without harnesses or straps: Use the carrier. This was key for us as Sophia’s developed a recent odd habit of standing precariously in her high chair.


The two places we took Sophia that didn’t have high chairs or kids menus were iconic Japanese dining experiences that we just had to do – ramen ordered using a ticket system from something that looked like a vending machine in Shibuya and sushi on a conveyor belt at the famous Tsukiji fish market. At least both environments were entertaining and quick enough with service to undergo Sophia’s short attention span!


We also got a baby sitter one night in Tokyo when we wanted to do a fine dining experience with kobe beef. The restaurant we selected was convenient as it was near to our Airbnb in Akasaka/Roppongi Hills and we reserved it using OpenTable. It specifically didn’t allow children and it was a multiple-course kaiseki meal, so it definitely warranted a baby sitter.

*Side note on baby-sitting in Tokyo: We found an excellent English baby-sitting service through a travel blog called Chubby Hubby. Communication was quick, background information was thorough and the whole process was very organized and reliable. Cannot recommend them enough!

No place like home: Lodging while traveling with a toddler 

This was the first multi-city trip in Asia we’ve taken where we stayed only at Airbnbs (usually we mix it up with hotels, resorts and friends’ homes). As Japan is one of the more expensive countries we have visited, not to mention it was a major holiday weekend and a bit of a last-minute planned trip, we weren’t left with much choice but to go the Airbnb route. However, we were fortunate to find Airbnbs that were at least roomy and modern for a family with a toddler.

We were happy to discover the luxuries of typical bathrooms in Japanese homes as they are usually equipped with small bathtubs that have electronic buttons to control the consistency of the amount and temperature of the water. This was perfect as it made for easy bathing for Sophia every night!


Both of our Airbnb homes also had full, equipped kitchens and separate living and dining rooms, making it easier to clean bottles and prepare baby food. We were also grateful for full-size washing machines/dryers as we didn’t have to carry loads of dirty laundry through the trip.

There were a couple hindrances in staying at our Airbnbs. First of all, both Airbnbs labeled themselves as “family/kid-friendly,” however both were not baby-proofed, did not have any child features (e.g. high chair, potty seat, plastic-ware) and the hosts at our Tokyo Airbnb in particular were not helpful with requests regarding baby sitting nor were understanding with any issues related to having a child.

We also noticed the garbage sorting was a lot more complicated than in Seoul. We do sort all our trash on a daily basis at home (e.g. food waste, clean paper, clean plastic, metal, glass and general garbage in a bag we pay for). However, the sorting in Kamakura specifically was at a whole other level. The explanation from the city was in a long booklet, and we didn’t realize we were supposed to separate the poop from Sophia’s disposable diapers until it was too late and we were about to leave for the airport! Yikes.

So many sights to see: Balancing sleep and activity with a toddler

Now that Sophia is down to only one nap per day, it was a lot easier for us to see more of an area than ever before.

(Above) Shinjuku Gyoen National Garden (Middle left) Sophia asleep in the stroller at Kamakura’s Tsurugaoka Hachimangu Shrine. (Middle right) Sophia and my friend’s LO napping before our stroll through the Shinjuku garden. (Bottom) The East Gardens of the Imperial Palace

On this trip, we were usually out the door by 8:30 a.m., and we would be out all day until right before bath time/bed time around 6:30 p.m. During her afternoon nap from about 12:30-2:30 p.m., we always planned a long walk so she could fall asleep in the stroller.

We put Sophia in the carrier in the morning while visiting landmarks. She makes it known when she’s had her fill of sight-seeing and is ready for nap! (ie. Notice her facial expressions!) One of our favorite sights was the Hokokuji Temple in the bamboo forest of Kamakura.

With this daily outline, we figured out what was best to do before and after her nap time. Before her nap – anything that didn’t involve a lot movement or interaction from her like shrines/temples and observatory towers/landmarks.

Enjoying the playground at Ueno Park in Tokyo

During her naps, we strolled in parks or along shopping streets that had flat, wide walkways and lots of natural white noise. After her naps, we found activities that catered to her active play time like kid-friendly museums and playgrounds in the parks we were just strolling through.

(Left) Fire Museum (Top right) Toy Museum (Bottom right) National Museum of Nature and Science. Wished we had gotten to these museums earlier before tickets to the special kid-friendly rooms and exhibits – like ComPaSS at the nature and science museum – were sold out!

Relaxing retreat: Date night in Kamakura at Enoshima Island Spa

The one other night we got a baby sitter on this trip was while we stayed in Kamakura and visited Enoshima Island Spa. Our Airbnb host’s friend (a mother of five) was kind enough to watch Sophia for the night (much cheaper than professional baby sitting services and a necessity as it’s harder for those types of services to reach smaller areas off the beaten path). A former colleague from my undergrad newspaper who remotely works with the spa and used to live in Tokyo had helped to generously provide my husband and I with free entrance passes.

View at night from the window after my massage

Michal and I are suckers for hot springs, mineral baths, etc. Whether it was the extensive indoor and outdoor pools of Budapest in our pre-baby days, or the numerous jjimjilbangs we’ve patronized while living in Korea, this activity is always a highlight for us on our travels, especially toward the end of the trip after much walking so as to soothe our aching feet/muscles.

Enoshima Island Spa was very different from the Korean spas we’ve recently frequented as it was more couple-centric, especially on the day and time that we visited on a Sunday night. (No children at all are allowed on Sundays, and no children under 6 years old are ever allowed entrance to the spa.) In contrast, going to the spa is actually a family event in Korea. I’ve been in many where babies and kids go in the baths with parents. (One exception was Spa Land in the Shinsegae Department Store of Busan as they catered to a high-end clientele with a focus on quietude.)  Enoshima Island Spa also adamantly did not allow photos to be taken on the property – even in the clothed, co-ed areas for “the sake of privacy.”

Views were spectacular and serene, especially from the outdoor infinity pool area. The majority of the facility were the co-ed pools (again different from my time in Korean spas as I’m used to spending most of it in the gender-separated nude areas and only meeting Michal and friends of the opposite sex when going into the numerous dry sauna rooms or other common areas like dining). There were caves/grottos that my husband jokingly said mimicked the Playboy Mansion as they were dim, cozy areas, and there was another set of indoor pools that played a sort of Vegas-style light and water show with flash and mist.


I couldn’t do as many of the hotter temperature areas as I’m pregnant, so I opted to get a pregnancy treatment while Michal enjoyed more of the saunas and hot water pools. The prenatal massage intrigued me because the description for the service required that the patron be five to eight months pregnant. It was completely different from any other massage I’ve received while pregnant as I was face-down on a special pillow/mat created for pregnant women. The padding was curved around my belly and graduated in height so that I was at an incline. In contrast, all prenatal massages I’ve received in Korea have required me to be on my side. In addition, part of the treatment included rubbing coconut oil on my belly to ease stretch marks and relax the very active baby inside me, which was also a new experience for me in a prenatal massage.

Wanderlust continues but travel is on pause for now

Ultimately, this was an exciting and much-needed last adventure/babymoon before we have to stick around town in anticipation of our second child’s arrival.

Michal and I felt like we finally figured out how to best travel with one baby/toddler as Sophia’s schedule has become more predictable and we’ve become more discerning about how to spend our day so that we’re all happy and peaceful. And it was a special time we’ll cherish with being able to just focus on our firstborn. So we have to laugh as we look forward to inevitably complicating our tried and true travel methods with a newborn/second child.

Perhaps we’ll concede that it’s actually time for us to settle down?


14-month update: Summertime in Seoul

There was a time in life when summer was hands-down the best season. (Could that be due to my prior life as a student or teacher?) However, while living in Seoul as a mother of a toddler, summer has become simultaneously the worst and the best season.

Reasons it’s the worst (as mentioned in prior blog posts but now amplified in my current state of affairs):

  • Sticky heat/humidity –

Especially terrible when in crowded areas of the city like when waiting for the subway or bus and while walking popular main streets in neighborhoods like Gangnam. Even worse this summer for me because I’m oftentimes working up a sweat any way while pushing Sophia in her stroller. (If I let her walk on her own all the time, she would either wander off into the road or end up stealing food for sale by the street vendors.) Not to mention, I’m seven months pregnant, which means I have a mini-heater attached to me. Forget about that “beautiful pregnant glow.”

  • Sporadic torrential downpours of rain –

Being caught without an umbrella isn’t too bad at times as I’m usually covered in sweat any way and the rain feels refreshing. It’s just not fun when walking along a road/area without sidewalk and a car splashes over me with dirty water. (Grateful Sophia was covered in her stroller shade when this recently happened!)

Reasons it’s the best:

  • Opportunities for splashing/swimming –

I love being in the water. Even though Seoul is no where near any type of large body of water like my home state of Michigan (so jealous of those #lakelife Instagrams right now), we’ve found fun replacements. One weekend, Sophia tried out swim lessons at a community pool near Ewha Women’s University with other expat friends.

Scared stiff: Sophia spent most of her first swim lesson in her father’s arms as wide, deep pools usually frighten her.  At least, she looks like a pro swimmer in her new sporty suit.

Another weekend, we traveled less than two hours away north of Seoul to a resort on the Hantan River where we experienced scenic hiking along the rushing water after a storm and then played in the kid-friendly pools that overlooked breathtaking views of the river gorge.

Pool party: Sophia finally got over her fear of water with these shallow and smaller pools.

Still on our To-Do list: Other friends with kids have done staycations to take advantage of the pools and spas in the major hotels the city has to offer. I’ve also heard of and seen fun splash areas in parks around the city and outdoor pools near the Han River of Seoul.

  •  Bingsu, soft serve and ice cream on the menu –

Bingsu is a traditional Korean, cool sweet treat only served during the summer in Seoul that I’d say is analogous to the ice cream sundae in America. The base is usually shaved ice – sometimes made of milk – and topped with sweet sauces, fruits, pastries, etc. A traditional topping is sweet red bean (AKA patbingsu). We recently had a fancy one at the Grand Hyatt in Seoul that was chocolate and coffee flavored.

Babies and bingsu: Played in nearby Children’s Forest of Namsan Park before chilling out in the Grand Hyatt’s lobby restaurant with our giant bingsu. The portion size is shareable for four!

Soft serve also makes an appearance on restaurant and cafe menus during the summer. Almost every where we go in town from legendary Left Coast Burgers in Itaewon to any random coffee shop we find starts to offer soft serve as a dessert option when it gets hot out.

As a stereotypical pregnant woman with cravings, I had recently been wanting what I deemed as “real ice cream” from the States. Think: thick, rich, indulgent and full of crunchy bits like chocolate chips and nuts, or pieces of summer fruit like peaches and strawberries. Emack and Bolio’s, an American East Coast chain strikingly similar to the more renown Ben & Jerry’s, recently opened up its first Korean location in our nearby Itaewon neighborhood of Seoul so that had helped to satisfy the cravings.

Eating for two: Thankfully, Michal and Sophia share my cravings. Pictured above are some of my fav ice cream cones/cups in Seoul: Passion 5, Sticky Ricky’s and Bistopping. (Middle pic is us getting our energy out during a post-ice cream sugar rush in a neighborhood playground.)
  • Kids cafes (AKA oasis for both parents and children) –

Always a highlight of living in Seoul, but a definite Godsend during summer months when it’s either way too hot/humid to play outside, or the storms make it too dangerous and wet. Sophia is also insanely active nowadays – She climbs on top of all our furniture and into all small spaces like our closets and even into our dishwasher. The cafes are a great place for her to let out all that pent-up energy and to satiate her curiosity – while in an air-conditioned, clean, baby-proofed area.

We’ve visited a few new ones around Seoul/outside of our usual Hannam-dong/Itaewon neighborhoods for the sake of adventure this summer. We found one through the Facebook group “Kiddin’ Around Soko” that was perfect for us because it was only a five-minute walk from our obstetrician’s clinic/birthing center.

After our epic 4D sonogram of baby #2 during my thrilling third trimester check-up (that Sophia completely  slept through), we let her loose at the Cheongdam location of Wonder Balls. I really liked this cafe as it was impeccably clean, had some play areas close to the eating areas so we could multitask/watch her run around safely, and had some different types of entertainment I hadn’t seen yet like a varied trampoline section (although be careful on these – we only use them when no one else is around) and an area dedicated to building but with pieces that were baby friendly (ie. HUGE lego blocks instead of the usual tiny choking hazards).

Running from room to room: Each area was distinctly separated. Top – grocery store/kitchen. Bottom (left to right) – Scooter ramp near dining area, building bench, trampoline, ball pit.

Sophia even somehow got over her fear of ball pits that she developed when she was at a Lilliput cafe when she was younger. (I think it relates to her fear of large bodies of water where she can’t see/touch the bottom. I actually have a similar fear!) There was a part of the ball pit area that was more shallow/near a slide that she was OK playing in (ie. not crying at the top of her lungs and was even able to explore a little).

On another rainy day, we tried out the kids cafe “Nimble” near the neighborhood directly south of us in Sinsa-dong. As it just opened a couple months ago, it also was sparkling clean. Adding to the upscale atmosphere, it’s a bit swankier of a neighborhood so both children and adults in the cafe were impressively dressed and accessorized. (e.g. a two-year-old had a designer lace dress with hair that was curled with a curling iron).

Highlights of this cafe were another smaller/shallower ball pit and trampoline area. The cafe is small enough that I could sit at a table and safely watch Sophia playing on her own or with other kids.

Nimble on her feet (left to right/top to bottom): Sweet Sophia scampered up padded steps, waded through the ball pit, bounced on a trampoline and built towers with daddy.

Pro tip for any kids cafe in Seoul: Get there early! We always go right after Sophia’s morning nap so we arrive right when it opens – usually 10:30 or 11 a.m. As we’re usually the first people in the cafe, we get the best located table, we can order and get our food/drinks quickly and there aren’t massive crowds or too many older kids that can trample over our little one. We usually try to leave right before her afternoon nap around 1:30 p.m., which is when it gets way too crowded for our little one.

How do you beat the heat during those long summer days with your active toddler? Would love any advice you have for in the city of Seoul, or even at home.

13-month update: Group getaways with babies

My favorite part of our Busan vacation was hanging out at Haeundae Beach on our sunniest day. Unfortunately, the water was bit too cold for the babies, but parents took turns taking a dip.

Michal and I have always had the motto of “the more, the merrier” when traveling, especially when lounging on the beach during summer vacation.

While growing up in Michigan, we used to bunk up with multiple family members and friends during lakefront cottage weekends. Through our 20s, we look back fondly at adventures that mimicked episodes of “The Real World.” (e.g. During a B-School Spring Break , we stayed in a house in Puerto Rico with a group of 10 people. After graduating from B-School during Beach Week, we stayed in a house of 20 people in North Carolina.)

So it was natural for us to apply this motto as new parents, even with babies.

To date, we’ve been on four trips with other families who have babies under 2 years old. Lodging has varied from entire houses and apartments on the beach via Airbnb to all-inclusive resorts in the mountains. Sophia started group getaways at around 4 months old and we did our most recent one in Busan, Korea when she turned 13 months old, while her travel companions have ranged from her age to a few months younger and a year or two older.

We’re goofing around with group selfie opportunities in the Gamcheon Cultural Village of Busan.

Ultimately what we’ve learned from our experiences is that it helps for both parents and children to be in similar stages when on vacation.

What this means: The kiddos benefit most when they can interact and play with each other during the daytime, while also be able to sleep soundly through the night so they don’t disturb each other. By the same token, parents should ideally maintain flexible yet fairly consistent schedules and have methods and/or philosophies that align. The complementary attitudes honestly make more convenient plans and more fun outings.

The cultural village had a lot of eclectic art built into the alleyways and colorful buildings. We couldn’t resist a baby photo shoot here. (Side note on milestone moments at 13 months: Sophia has recently learned how to share toys! She also loves to babble and have baby talk conversation.)

Michal and I have shared our biggest take-aways below based on past experiences. Most anecdotes are based on our recent vacation when we shared an entire apartment via Airbnb on Gwangalli Beach in Busan, Korea for a long holiday weekend with a couple and their nine-month-old. (Sophia had just turned 13 months.)

Tips for traveling with other families:

We took the KTX speed train from Seoul to Busan so it took just a little more than two hours of travel. It was so convenient and easy to buy the tickets online. There were tons of elevators and ramps at the station. Bonus points: Diaper changing table and nursing room on the train!

*Share a typical schedule for your baby with the other family ahead of time that includes naps, meals and bed time routines. This knowledge will help when trying to align parts of the schedule with what you want to do in the area, as well as give an idea of common “quiet vs. awake/noisy hours” of the day. (Thank goodness Sophia seemed to be getting over her one-year-old sleep regression just as we started the trip!)

*Discuss what to do during the times of the day when babies can nap on the go in the carrier or stroller. E.g. A walk along the shore in the carrier can still put Sophia to sleep if timed right and continuously moving, but this method didn’t work as well for the other baby, so the parents brought a stroller for the nearby beach boardwalk.

Above pictures: On the boardwalk of Gwangalli Beach, Sophia slept in her stroller while we took in the views and dined at the Owl and Pussycat Taproom. (Side note: Busan has some of the best craft beer in the country.) Below pictures: Sophia was under a light muslin blanket during her nap in the carrier while we explored Haeundae Beach and Haedong Yonggung Temple
Spa Land in Busan

*Prioritize what activities families can do altogether vs. separately, as well as any opportunities for baby sitting (either by hiring a baby sitter or by switching off which couple stays home and when). E.g. When in Collingwood, Ontario with my sister-in-law, her husband and their children (ages 10 and 2), we hired a baby sitter to watch all of our children at night while the adults went to a wedding. However, when we were in Busan, Michal and I visited Spa Land in the Shinsegae Department Store, which did not allow children (very rare in Korea), but our friends weren’t interested in going so they graciously offered to baby sit during Sophia’s morning nap time/lunch time.

*Immediately locate the nearest grocery store, pharmacy, convenience store, etc. for any items that will come in handy later. While in Busan, our Airbnb host graciously provided a kitchen full of breakfast food like eggs, cheese, bread, butter/jam, milk, coffee/tea and cereal, but we wanted extras like fruit, yogurt  and snacks for babies. One person in our group also suffered a burn from a BBQ grill at dinner and needed ointment and other treatment from the pharmacy.

*As we’ve mentioned in prior blog posts, we can’t rave enough about the advantages of using Google Photo on your phones. With four people constantly snapping pics of the beautiful scenery, not to mention trying to capture all the cute baby moments, it’s so much easier and convenient to pool all photos into one cloud storage space instantaneously.

When sharing lodging-

*The best time to do a group getaway is when all babies/toddlers are sleep-trained or are able to self-soothe. It’s possible before that, but it’s not the most ideal or comfortable circumstance.

Our worst case scenario: (Disclaimer – This trip was fun except for the challenges we incurred at bedtime/overnight.) When we shared an apartment-style suite (one bathroom, two bedrooms, open layout with kitchenette, breakfast bar and living room) at a ski resort in Pyeongchang, Sophia was going through a lot of changes in her sleep routine both voluntarily and involuntarily, while also fighting a bad cold, that made it hard for anyone to get any sleep. She had just turned nine months old and had just gone through a sleep transition from three naps per day to two naps per day and was still being breastfed/bottle fed to sleep. Needless to say, she had difficulty with not only falling asleep but staying asleep so her loud crying/waking every two hours woke up everyone – me, Michal and the other family of four.

The vibrant night view from a raw fish restaurant on Gwangalli Beach near our Airbnb

Our best case scenario: In contrast, on our recent trip to Busan where we shared an Airbnb, both babies (our 13-month-old and the other couple’s 9-month-old) already underwent sleep training and could soothe themselves to sleep, as well as wake up peacefully and play while patiently waiting for mom and dad to wake up in the morning. Granted, the Airbnb apartment was much larger than the ski resort suite with three bedrooms, two bathrooms (one with separated toilet and shower), kitchen, dining room, living room and sun room, so Sophia was even able to have her own room, like at home.

*If possible, bring a wifi video monitor that can be viewed on your phone. We have enjoyed using our new Yi Home system. While in Busan, the babies slept soundly and safely in our secure second-story Airbnb above our host’s home, so we were able to go outside for a bit nearby to the beach and for dinner. We had peace of mind because we watched our babies on the monitor while also being a very close walking distance away from them.

Dinners (1)
We were stuffed with some of the best seafood I’ve eaten in my life! Our dinners were one of the highlight of the trip. Upper left: Eel in Korean BBQ-style. Upper right: Raw fish platter in sashimi-style. Lower left: Shell fish about to go on the grill. Lower right: Moving octopus.

Any more advice for when traveling with multiple families of babies and toddlers? Please share, as we continue to venture out this summer!

Congratulations and Condolences:

Life and loss with baby #2

15 weeks along: Enjoying cherry blossom season in Seoul while carrying a baby in front and another one on the back!

In the beginning of February, Michal and I found out we were expecting again.

We had just arrived from our long travels through the major cities, beaches and rain forest areas of Malaysia (a country recently added to the CDC’s Zika list). Our first child Sophia had just turned nine months old, and we had just started sleep training her as well as supplementing my breastfeeding with formula. (I didn’t realize the recent decrease in milk production was an early sign of pregnancy.)

In our first sonogram, the technician showed us twins.

About 5 weeks along: I was unknowingly carrying three babies while walking across this suspension bridge in Borneo! I was trying to get Sophia to nap, so I was breastfeeding her while she was in the Ergo carrier on our tour.

Neither Michal nor I have twins or multiples in our families. We were already surprised about the second pregnancy so soon after having Sophia in the midst of our expat lifestyle, so we were really shocked to see those two babies on the screen. What a miracle and another reminder of the theme of our blog here in Seoul – that there is only so much we can control.

19 weeks along: Taking in the serene scenery during our second “babymoon” in Shanghai, Suzhou and Hangzhou, China.

After we found out about the pregnancy and recounted our recent vacation to my obstetrician, the entire family underwent Zika testing. After a couple weeks of information gathering and processing, (thankfully) all tests came out negative.

However, my OB at the time expressed initial concerns with the first sonogram as one baby seemed to be larger than the other. And then at a later appointment and sonogram, the second baby had no heartbeat. We held out hope, praying with close friends and family for the life of both babies.

Eventually, I miscarried the second baby at the end of my first trimester. The medical conclusion was Vanishing Twin Syndrome, more common among women over 30.

I felt a strange juxtaposition of sadness, relief and guilt. To have lost one baby that was a part of me, but to see the other one is healthy and growing, unaffected. To be in awe of the gift of two babies. But to also be overwhelmed with the future of caring for three babies under two years old, all while living abroad away from close friends and family. And then to feel guilt at being relieved of now only having to manage two babies under two years old.

If I’m being completely honest, I feel even more guilt and heartache with knowing many who currently struggle with infertility and/or have experienced pregnancy loss at a later stage.

Now, in the thick of second trimester, I still waver between these moments of grief and joy as we tell more people we are expecting and I stop myself from saying  “two babies” like I said earlier. We are excited in anticipation of our next addition to our family, but also want to always remember the one we lost, who we have named Enoch.

Enoch “walked with God; then he was no more; because God took him.” (Genesis 5:21-24)

Based on a friend’s suggestion, Michal and I took a ceramics class at Dano studio in Seoul to make something that will remind us daily of Enoch. Michal made a mug and I made a flower pot.

12-month update: Sophia’s First Birthday!

As per most Asian birthday traditions: Eating long noodles for a long life! 

Sophia’s birthday is an easy one to remember – for multiple reasons.

May 5 is Children’s Day, a national holiday in Korea that everyone gets off of work and school in order to (fittingly) spend quality time with our children. May 5 is also Cinco de Mayo  – a celebration of Mexican culture that also happens to be an unofficial drinking holiday in the States (making for an easy theme for her 21st birthday party). Moreover, May 5 is etched into our memory as the day our marriage/relationship forever changed with the addition of our first child to our family.

Finding the best way to celebrate the big day was a bit tricky. We knew we would be going on vacation because there were three other national holidays during her birthday week that made it very easy to travel. However, we also wanted to have a special party with friends just for her.

Of course, we ended up doing it all over the span of a couple weeks, which then stretched over Mother’s Day and Michal’s birthday. Just so many reasons to par-tay in the Filipowski household during the month of May!

Familiar faces in new places: Our holiday in China

We’ve had Shanghai on our “To-Visit” list for a while as we have family friends and friends from undergrad who have been living as expats there for the past few years. Our family friends from Michigan have a 12-year-old and 3-year-old, and our fellow MSU friends have a 2-year-old – all willing, energetic companions for Sophia. Not to mention, Michal has a friend from high school who recently began working at Shanghai Disneyland. Plus, it’s a short flight from Seoul (about one and half hours) – perfect for Sophia now that she is a full-fledged walker who does not like to be held down.


In addition to Shanghai, we traveled to nearby Suzhou (half-hour speed train away) and Hangzhou (one-hour speed train away). Suzhou is like the “Venice of China” with all its canals – We even did a gondola ride with Sophia! – and it has serene classical gardens with much fewer crowds in contrast to Shanghai. The gems of Hangzhou also involve water as the Xixi wetlands (comparable to the Florida Everglades) and – most famously -the West Lake scenic areas are the main tourist attractions.


Although it was much harder for us to get around China than Korea (fewer family accommodations like nursing rooms, diaper-changing rooms, elevators, etc. as well as much less English than we’re used to seeing in Seoul and the inconvenient blockage of Google, Facebook, Instagram, etc.), we were grateful to have the ability to reconnect with our close friends from back home in a new environment and for Sophia to meet them too!

One is the most fun: Traditional first birthday party in Korea

Once everyone in Seoul was back from their holidays, we couldn’t resist throwing her a Korean-style first birthday. The weekend after getting back from our travels, we invited friends and their babies to join us.


Sophia donned the traditional hanbok dress and participated in the doljabi ceremony of predicting her future career path. She was initially distracted by someone’s iPhone. She – eventually – picked a thermometer to represent a career in medicine. But she also played a lot with the rosary/cross, which we interpreted that she would toy with the religious path as a nun.

Multiple milestones at 12 months

  • Sophia sprouted two more teeth! She has one upper tooth and two lower ones.
  • She tried cow’s milk for the first time and started eating egg white (mixed in scrambled eggs). Thank God for no allergic reactions! She is also experimenting with using utensils, having picked up spoon and fork on her own.
  • She learned how to climb with efficiency as our family friends had five flights of stairs for her to practice this new skill. She climbs the playground slide stairs over and over again now that we’re back home.
  • She prefers to walk instead of stay in a stroller or carrier, although she isn’t very fast yet and gets easily distracted along the path.
  • She talks in her own language – I’m guessing it’s a blend of what she hears (English, Korean, Polish), along with some baby talk. She has a steady stream of chatter that seems to mimick the cadence and flow of sentences and she looks at us like we should know what she is saying and could respond.
  • She has a undergone a sleep regression. 😦 She did pretty well through our travels despite sleeping in new places and napping on the go, as she didn’t wake up through the night. But now a week out from her true birthday, she’s started to wake during the night – maybe once or twice – and has been fighting her nap times.

Time capsule tributes

In looking back at the past year, I opened a little “time capsule” I stored away electronically via Google docs of her birth story. I was just reflecting on it with a group of friends from back home in Michigan. If you’re interested in reading the details about the most thrilling and joyful moment of lives, click on this link. Cliff notes version: Sophia was a natural birth, lasting a total of about five hours from the time I was admitted at 4 cm dilated to the time of delivery. It wouldn’t have been possible without the help of our doula, midwife, OB and Michal!

We’ve also kept up with a scrapbook this past year that close friends from the Detroit and Chicago areas created for Sophia. It was an incredible collaboration as each page/section had a different theme for each stage (e.g. first holidays, baptism, bath time, travel) and all Michal and I had to do was print out photos and stick them in the appropriate spots, along with record any thoughts and special dates. If interested in seeing how the scrapbook turned out, click on this link.

Birthday wishes for our sweet Sophia

The past year has been one of trials and triumphs for Sophia, for our marriage and for us as a family unit, especially while living away from family and friends as new parents and expats in Seoul. Our little one is growing up faster than we realize. We are truly in awe of what surprises come each day with her, and we (try to) embrace the unpredictable. Here’s to you, Sophia, for making our lives more challenging yet more fulfilling. Wishing you health and happiness in the years to come!

11-month update: Springtime in Seoul

Signs of the spring season have been popping up within the Filipowski household this past month. Highlights include more visitors from the States, showers and sunshine that yielded beautiful blooms, major milestones for our sweet Sophia, and a special expat Easter celebration. Low lights include records in poor air quality resulting in some mild respiratory issues for the whole family.

Spring in her step

Ready to conquer the world: Sophia goes off the beaten path near the Hangang in Yeouido Park in front of iconic Building 63.

Sophia has officially become a walker!

She went through a period last month when she would alternate crawling, cruising and walking. But just after turning 11 months old (two weeks ago), she has only walked to transport herself. She is more confident and surefooted in our apartment, but a bit slower and wobbly on uneven ground like grass and gravel.

She just recently has been figuring out steps: When she precariously goes down a step into our guest bathroom, she will sometimes just drop altogether into a half-slide/crawl. When going up steps on a slide at daycare and in our apartment complex’s playground, she was more adept.

Spring is in the air

It seemed to be the perfect timing for Sophia to start walking as the weather has been getting warmer and we’ve been able to visit parks/go outside so she has more room to roam and explore. Not to mention, it’s cherry blossom season so we can have beautiful scenery while we stroll!

However, springtime in Seoul is also synonymous with bad air quality.

The air traps us indoors and has caused headache and persistent cold/allergy symptoms like runny nose, sore throat and cough that will also force us into quarantine. On those days, we tend to be cooped up in our apartment and we all go a little stir crazy from the cabin fever. When the rain comes to clear all the pollution away, we bust out and take advantage.

The air quality and the weather magically aligned when we hosted our friends Tara and Scott from Chicago, who we originally know from undergrad at Michigan State. As it was their first time in Seoul (and first time traveling through Asia), we were excited to be tourists in our own town.

On the other side of the river: Taking a stroll along the Hangang near our house on a clear day when college friends were visiting.

We enjoyed walking around the nearby circular path around Namsan (Mountain) Park and on the trail of the Hangang (River) Park. Sophia joined us on all these adventures, going from stroller to carrier. On those days, the skies were a crystal clear blue that I hadn’t seen in months, and while higher up on the mountain, it felt refreshing and invigorating to breathe in the crisp air.

Spring showers bring flowers

In the last couple weekends, Michal and I planned outings to see the cherry blossoms with Sophia. We visited another section of the circular path of Namsan and a new section of the Hangang on the other side of town – Yeouido.

Spring flowers: At the peak of cherry blossom season in Namsan Park!

Flower petals softly fell as the wind gently blew through the trees in Yeouido, making it feel like a scene out of a romantic K-drama. Sophia enjoyed picnicking and getting some time to try out her new walking skills. After getting out all her energy, she fell asleep in the stroller during her nap time as we navigated through the crowds of people among the cherry blossoms on the main road circling Yeouido.

Out of death, comes life

To cap off springtime in Seoul, we celebrated Sophia’s first Easter the only way we knew how: With traditions from back home, enjoyed alongside some fellow expat families who could relate to our homesickness during holidays.

Easter is largely not recognized in Korea. Christmas has commercial appeal as it’s presented to be a “romantic, couple’s holiday” here so we could at least find tree decorations, wrapping paper, etc. during the winter season. There is virtually no sign of the commercial or the Christian meaning of Easter (unless when attending a church service). No Easter bunny to visit. No Easter egg hunts, nor Easter baskets full of candy.

Babies’ first Easter baskets: Replaced the traditional candy with teething crackers.

Growing up Catholic in my big Filipino family, I have vivid memories of the Easter holiday and the entire Holy Week leading up to it. I remember washing the feet of another church goer during Holy Thursday mass like Jesus did with his disciples during the Last Supper, following the Stations of the Cross during Good Friday service, and then lighting candles at night during Easter Vigil mass on Holy Saturday. On Sunday, we would dress in our “Easter best” and attend the largest mass of the year as people overflowed into adjoining rooms and had to watch all the action on a live TV feed.

After Easter mass, we’d return home for lunch to a Filipino potluck as my parents hosted all our relatives who were based in metro Detroit and the Toronto area (four hours driving distance away). But the moment all the kids anticipated was the Easter egg hunt in which the adults (and later the older teens) would fill those classic plastic eggs with candy and hide them all over the front and backyard.

Michal grew up with strong Polish traditions associated with Easter as well. The supper was a labor love, with dishes often taking several days of preparation. One standout dish was the stuffed eggs. Think: Fancier and more tasty version of deviled eggs. After cutting the hard-boiled eggs in half, with shell in tact, one would scoop out the insides (whites and yolks). This would be chopped up and mixed with fresh herbs and stuffed back into the shells. After putting breadcrumb on top of each egg half, they would be fried.

Filipowski family recipe: Polish Stuffed Eggs, only made for Easter. Michal made them for us!

Another intricate and time-intensive Polish tradition for Easter was egg decorating. These were not the kind dyed with a kit from the grocery store. Michal’s family’s eggs were dyed with the natural color obtained from old red onion skins steeped in water. And the designs were etched through the dye and into the shell. They are incredible works of art that actually last years.

Bunny Ears: I’m wearing Michal’s Halloween costume from last year, bought at Target during a home leave visit, along with a recently purchased headband from the local Emart. (Fun fact- The costume is actually an elephant in the form of adult onesie pajamas.)

At any rate, Michal and I wanted to recreate these special moments for Sophia and our friends and their children in Seoul. Last Sunday, we attended mass at the international Catholic parish in our neighborhood, color-coordinated in pink. Afterward, I dressed up as an Easter bunny and passed out baskets I pieced together from fun items I found at a flower market in Seoul’s Express Bus Terminal and a nearby Daiso (similar to Dollar Tree back home), along with some baby treats I previously ordered online through iHerb (almost all children who came over were under two years old). Michal painstakingly made the stuffed eggs for guests and ordered a mouthwatering lamb dinner from nearby, foreigner-friendly High Street Market.

On that day, we were grateful for so much as we were able to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus with delicious food, meaningful fellowship and some of our most treasured family traditions.

Happy Easter and Happy Spring to you and yours!

10-month Update: In Search of Sleep in Seoul

With all the blog posts drawing to attention to Sophia’s frenzied activity, I thought it was time to showcase a bit more of the opposite: her sleep patterns.

At 10 months old, our main focus with Sophia during this age has been maintaining sleep routines. A culmination of factors brought about our sustained sleep training this past month but in large part we recently read the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child and it made us realize that we’ve been looking at Sophia’s sleep cycle and habits in all the wrong ways. (Disclaimer: I am by no means a sleep expert, but this is what has and has not worked for us as a family!)

Life-changing revelation #1: Daytime and nighttime sleep are connected.

We had no idea that poor napping during the daytime would affect her night’s sleep. We were always under the false impression that if she didn’t sleep much during the day, then she’d just crash at night and stay asleep because she’s so tired. The book describes how the amount of “awake time” between her naps and bedtime matters. If stretched out too long, which we tended to do between her afternoon nap and bedtime, she becomes overtired and finds it harder to settle down after gaining a second wind.

Attempting a photo for her China visa.

Not to mention, we honestly didn’t have set nap times until maybe around six months old. That sounds impossible for most, but Michal and I weren’t big on routines as we still wanted to go everywhere with Sophia. As expats, we either traveled  or entertained/hosted a new set of visitors every month. In the earlier days, she would fall asleep naturally on-the-go while we were traipsing around Seoul or venturing out elsewhere.

It got harder around four months, but then we went back to the States and her whole schedule was flipped any way with jet lag. By the time we returned to Seoul, we hosted three sets of friends over the course of a month and then traveled again in Malaysia and Pyeongchang, Korea.

Plus, Sophia went through several stages and illnesses that interrupted her sleep cycles/schedules during that time period like her eight-month sleep regression, sprouting her first tooth at nine months, a terrible vomit-inducing stomach virus (likely from a kid’s cafe), an even worse bout of diarrhea and diaper rash/infection (likely from daycare), and a very bad cold (likely from a plane on one of our many travels).

Ready to play! Sophia wakes up from her morning nap, still clutching her monkey crib toy.

Now, Sophia’s naps are usually 9-10 a.m. and 1-2:30 p.m. (give or take 10 minutes at the beginning or end of each nap). After this period of intense sleep training and getting her on somewhat predictable schedule, we’ve been able to drop her off for a few hours after waking from her morning nap at a local government-subsidized daycare. (Preview: Affordable childcare in Korea is a future blog post topic).

Sophia’s discovery of tissue boxes at home = Time to find new entertainment at daycare.

The daycare has a strict “Adaptation Program” in which she started with only one hour a day and has been adding time as she adjusts to the schedule of activities and the people. She has been napping maybe 70 percent of the times she has gone, and (predictably) when she doesn’t nap or doesn’t have a long nap, she is incredibly cranky. We’re looking forward to the day she is fully adjusted! That’s a bit of advice we’d love: How do you help your baby have restful nap at daycare where there are so many distractions?

Life-changing revelation #2: We put her to bed too late.

For the past month or two, Sophia has usually fallen asleep by 6:30 p.m. and woken up for the day at 6:30 a.m. During that 12-hour period, she is a bit more unpredictable as she typically wakes once to have milk, but that one time can either be at 9:30 p.m., 1:30 a.m. or 3:30 a.m. (Of course, we prefer that 9:30 p.m. time slot as the whole family can then get in a good night’s sleep!)

She loves sitting on daddy’s shoulders!

We’ve been considering night weaning this middle-of-the-night feeding out of our lives, but as it’s an unpredictable wake-up call with a different amount of milk each time, we haven’t figured out the best way of starting this. Any advice on night weaning is also much appreciated. 🙂

We used to designate bedtime routine duties to Michal so that he could have bonding time with Sophia and I could rest. Once we saw that late night routine was detrimental, we flipped the daddy-daughter bonding time to the morning. Michal now gets Sophia up and ready for the day, changing her and feeding her breakfast. She’s even become his morning workout buddy (AKA she replaces his kettle bell and weights some times or just curiously watches him).

Life-changing revelation #3: Our baby needed to learn how to self-soothe and put herself to sleep.

We had been applying tips from Happiest Baby on the Block way past the appropriate age. (Granted, these tips worked like a charm for Sophia when she was little!) Part of the reason we extended the following habits was due to the fact that Sophia would cough/choke a bit while breastfeeding due to my oversupply and so we felt the need to hold her upright for a while after feeding. While keeping her upright, we would rock or bounce her gently to sleep and that just became habit after time. Around five or six months, my oversupply normalized and then we would just nurse or bottle feed her to sleep.

Crying it Out (CIO) seemed so intimidating and heart-wrenching. I just couldn’t bring myself to do it, even though I knew it wasn’t right to have all these sleep crutches for her for so long. We finally gave in around nine months to do some form of “controlled crying” and found that she actually didn’t need to cry it out long.


Bedtimes came easiest first – Sophia usually fell asleep in less than 10 minutes of crying. Of course, I had to complete her bedtime routine before putting her in the crib. (Side note: I do bedtime routine solo during the week while Michal is still at work.) I started doing her last bottle feeding of the night before bath and story time instead of afterward, and then I would put her in bed drowsy but awake.

Nap times were a battle for a few weeks and I would sometimes give in after a while by nursing or rocking her to sleep if she surpassed 10 minutes of crying it out. But after one month of struggles, she was on the road to falling asleep on her own for all naps and bedtime. It was a game-changer as I used to sometimes take up to 30 minutes or more of trying to get Sophia to sleep.

Sleep training has probably been the hardest part of parenting (thus far) that I’ve experienced. What I’ve found is that I now do treasure the routine. I used to hate “feeling trapped” at home during nap times, but I realize how the limitations give way to freedoms as I can better predict when she’ll sleep soundly and when she’ll be in a good mood for a play date or some other event.

Sleep Suggestions Specific to Expat Parent Problems:

Jet lag-

The best piece of advice I got from fellow expat parents regarding jet lag (also applicable to adults): Expose little one to as much bright natural light as possible during the usual “awake hours.”

The sunlight is supposed to help reset theirs (and our) internal clocks. If possible, go outside for a walk in the stroller or carrier to capture the light or sit/play near sunny spots from your windows. Try to keep to the times of your routines regarding feeding, playing and napping. If LO falls asleep during an undesignated nap time, wake him or her up after a reasonable amount of time (maybe an hour or two).

Eager to eat! Sophia’s all set up with her high chair, bib and place mat.

It was a rough go for us in the beginning but Sophia improved by the end of the week after returning to the States and later in Seoul. It actually helped that we had scheduled her baptism for the day after we arrived in the States. (Some may say that is a little extreme, but it worked out for us because we could go to sleep early while family and friends entertained/distracted her.) For the day after we returned to Seoul, we actually went to a big beer festival with freinds so we were out in the daylight and around a lot of people.

Napping on the go –

Before three months of age, anything goes! Sophia slept so well any time she was in the carrier or stroller. We’d go on walks and she’d be sound asleep in no time. Sometimes, we’d even plan a walk before going out to a restaurant or to a party so that she’d fall asleep first and then she’d amazingly stay asleep through all of the ambient noise of the crowd.

After four months, sleep patterns changed. Naps were around every two to three hours and bedtime was still relatively later like 7 or 8 p.m. Around six months, there was usually three solid naps per day. After the eight-month regression, two naps become habit – which usually called for an earlier bedtime to make up for the missing third nap, so closer to 6 or 7 p.m.

We’ve realized that while traveling, we need to emulate home sleep environment and habits as much as possible. We bring travel blackout curtains, a portable white noise maker on our Kindle, her favorite pacifier and stuffed monkey toy, bedtime stories and lullabies on our phones.

Trying to sneak a photo in before walking around Yongsan Family Park

When it’s difficult for us to make it back to our hotel during her afternoon nap session, we’ve found some success in executing the following: We plan a few minutes to stop and feed her milk in a generally peaceful, distraction-less, shady area around her usual nap time. We then recline her in the stroller, cover with a stroller shade, turn on our portable white noise maker, and walk her in the stroller for at least an hour.

The best activities for this are when visiting a park or going around a city. (We didn’t prefer doing this in a museum because it was too quiet when she would wake. Plus, the ambient noise helps Sophia sleep!) About 90 percent of the time, she has fallen asleep and stayed asleep while we’ve walked and continued our sightseeing.

If you have any other advice for us on how to help Sophia sleep completely through the night, or sleeping while traveling, please share!

Nine-Month Update: Travel with a Toddler

Through our experiences with multiple (travel and developmental) transitions during Sophia’s beginning toddler stage, we’ve expanded our expat parenting repertoire (as well as begun to treasure the leisure of simply staying home and following routine).

While recently on vacation during Lunar New Year in Malaysia, we celebrated Sophia’s nine months! Almost directly after this hot and humid multi-city/two-week adventure, we did a road trip from Seoul to snowy and chilly Pyeongchang, Korea – home of the 2018 Winter Olympics – for a ski lodge weekend getaway with another family.

We’ll recap this month’s milestones below and describe how we managed all the changes through our travels.

Chewing and chasing

Celebrating her first cruising session with a bottle

In Sophia’s ninth month, she went through a major teething stage and sprouted her first bottom tooth! She has also grown more voracious in her appetite and more gourmet in her palate with spice level as we had given her tastes of all the curries we ate in Malaysia.


With movement, she is starting to cruise (walking while holding on to something for support) as well as stand unassisted. We test her cruising ability by putting an item of interest (like a bottle of milk or a remote control) on the living room TV stand or coffee table and lure her to the other side.

She will cruise over in some moments, but other times shows impatience and just drops to a quick crawl. Now that she is even more mobile than before, we’ve had to dedicate more time for her to practice this new skill.


Side note on Sleep

Sleep has undergone a major makeover. With so many friends and colleagues suggesting the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, we discovered research on what makes for quality sleep as a baby and how those habits transfer with age. During her eight-month sleep regression, Sophia went from three naps per day to two. To compensate for the “missing nap,” we made her bedtime extra early (one key takeaway from the book) by moving it from 7:30/8:30 p.m. to 5:30/6:30 p.m.

Once she turned nine months old (end of Malaysia trip and during Pyeongchang trip), we had more defined nap times and bed times. She is getting used to her new ~9-10 a.m. morning nap and ~1-2:30 p.m. afternoon nap schedule with a 6:30 p.m. bedtime and 6:30 a.m. wake-up time.

And now after being home for more than a solid week, we’ve renovated our routines to help her become a more independent sleeper (employing a modified version of CIO or “controlled crying”). She used to nurse to sleep in the past but is just starting to go down (most of the time) drowsy but awake, so she is figuring out self-soothing. (She has been better at it with bedtimes but nap times can still be a struggle.)

During this month of constant travel, sleeping in a new place every three nights and napping on the go, along with having different baby sitters while mom and dad were on various date nights, made it difficult to be consistent. Hence, the joy of simply staying home in the second half of the month. Consistency in routines = consistency in sleep.

Top 10 Travel Tips

By starting travel with Sophia at around two months old, we’ve compiled some tried and true methods for packing, napping and feeding on the go, and playtime in transit. (Please note: We are by no means experts, so we value any other advice you have to share with us!)

In her nine months of life, she has been to five countries: Korea, U.S., Canada, Indonesia and Malaysia (seven if you count in utero with Vietnam and Japan). We’ve done two significant road trips with Sophia, five-hour drive between Toronto and Detroit area before crawling stage, and three-hour drive between Pyeongchang and Seoul during crawling stage. These tips encompass both her stationary infant and mobile beginning toddler stages.


Sophia poops her pants and spills Michal’s beer at a street food market in Penang. Notice the juxtaposition of facial expressions in this moment.

Be prepared for wardrobe changes: Not in the glamorous sense like the Oscars – Bring extra changes of clothing for both you and baby when considering spit-up, diaper blow-outs (not fun when eating unusual solids), etc. Wear clothes that would be easy to change into and out of, as well as can mask stains and can allow for easy breastfeeding. For example, I’ve worn a black nursing dress with a lightweight jersey material.



Travel lightly: It seems contradictory to the last statement, but try as hard as you can so you have fewer bags.We’ve actually forgotten pieces of luggage more than once at the airport when in an exhausted stupor after long flights. (When this happened in Seoul, the airport contacted us and delivered it to us promptly. We have not always been so fortunate.)  Buy extra diapers, wipes, formula, baby food, etc. at your destination. Ask your home rental owner or hotel/resort management if he or she can provide a bassinet for the baby or access to laundry services.

Side note regarding the bassinet: A valuable piece of advice I got from fellow expat parents who travel often – Place the baby bassinet or Pack and Play in the bathroom of a hotel room to provide baby with his or her own “bedroom.” We all sleep terribly when we’re traveling and staying in the same room, as Sophia is used to her own space at home. Co-sleeping families will have an easier time with travel regarding this change in routine.

Decrease discomfort: Air pressure changes create pain resulting in extra fussiness so either nurse, feed with a bottle or offer a pacifier. Short flights (which we did at two months old when going from Seoul to Jeju, as well as have done between different cities within Malaysia) can actually be more tricky than long flights, as Sophia wasn’t hungry on the descent after nursing during the ascent that just happened. The pacifier was a life-saver! It helps if the paci has a clip in case it falls out. Not to mention, the paci while she was sleeping during redeye flights helped. (Although try to avoid flights that interrupt bedtime routine/night sleep schedule as this is the most difficult time to get baby back to sleep when it’s so loud and bright all around.)

Soak up the sun safely: If walking or hiking under the sun is on the agenda, make sure to bring a baby hat, a lightweight muslin blanket and/or a stroller shade to protect from UV rays. Baby sunscreen helps but I also liked having these other items to ensure maximum protection for Sophia when she was little as most stronger skincare protection products are not for babies younger than six months old.

Multi-task when possible: When creating an itinerary, consider stops for feedings, diaper changes and play time as breaks for the whole group. For instance, we all rested and gathered together for a snack, drink or meal whenever I would need to nurse. I’ve mastered eating with one hand and the nursing cover acts as a handy adult bib. 😉

We also always bring an easy-to-fold picnic blanket to spread out for her to work out her energy with crawling. (She has used this at beaches, parks, vacated gates at airports, empty restaurants, concrete expanses at various landmarks, etc.)

Furthermore, we would try to align walking/sightseeing activity with her nap times so that she would stay asleep in transit if we couldn’t make it back to the hotel for her to sleep comfortably in her bassinet. The blackout stroller shade and white noise maker on our Kindle were two life savers that ensured a restful nap while on-the-go.

Keep it simple: Speaking of itinerary, less really is more. My husband and I usually pool research from top-rated items on reviewer-generated websites like Tripadvisor and Yelp into a shared Google map or Excel sheet in order to check items off our “must-see list.”

I always find it useful to read the family friendly activity lists that Tripadvisor provides, but also to type in the search word “stroller” in a particular landmark’s reviews to see how other parents found it navigable.

Consider what activities are stroller-friendly, baby carrier-friendly and what warrants a baby sitter. Prioritize what means most and then diversify based on baby’s schedule.

House hunting: Rent a house or apartment if traveling with other family and friends. Choose a location that is most close to where you will spend the majority of your time: When we were in Jeju at two months old, we had our in-laws with us so we thought a house would be better than getting a couple hotel rooms as we wanted common space like the living room and a kitchen for cooking meals, pumping and storing milk, etc. We chose a place close to the beach as we anticipated going there often, but also rented a car for longer day trips.

While in the Toronto area for a wedding at about four months old, we shared a house with multiple family members of varying aged children. We all discussed our typical family routines so we were all aware of when certain common spaces needed to be vacated or quiet during points of the day relating to nap times and bedtimes.

The ski resort had so many Pororo penguin cartoon toys!

When we were in Pyeongchang at nine months old with one other family with two children under 2 years old, we looked for very family friendly ski resort options. We lucked out with a resort that had little houses tucked into the mountains, tailored toward families of young children (ie. private play room with tons of toys, high chair and baby bed in the house; playground and kid’s cafe on premises).



On the road: If flying and planning to drive at your destination, it helps to bring a stroller with a detachable car seat. We were able to check both the car seat and the stroller at the gate, but it helps to have a set that interlocks because it makes for less to lug around. We did not have to pay extra for a car seat in our rental vehicle. Not to mention, we could use the car seat on the plane, which was key for small planes that couldn’t provide bulkhead seating and bassinets.


A whole row to ourselves to play!

Perks on the plane: When flying, research on the carrier’s website to see what services they offer mothers with babies and take full advantage: When we checked in/got our boarding passes, we made sure to go through the list we found online. For example, Asiana Airlines and Korean Air gave us priority boarding (which I found especially helpful when Sophia was little because we had so much stuff), an additional 10-kilo piece of luggage for checking in (which ended up being our Pack and Play), ability to check in stroller and car seat for free at the gate, and priority luggage (first pieces out on the belt).


Always check at the gate (NOT at the check-in counter) to see if the flight is full. More often than not, we have been able to take an extra seat in our row or ask for seats to be rearranged. With the extra seat, we use Sophia’s car seat for sleeping and eating (much more secure and comfortable than a bassinet at her older age now). With the extra leg room in a row all to ourselves, we’ve been able to set up our own play space for Sophia to crawl, stand and cruise.

Making memories: We highly recommend you and travel companions to use Google Photo. This goes beyond special trips as Michal and I do this on a regular basis (starting back in B-school when we went on Spring Break with friends). When with a larger group, we all take so many pictures and videos on our phones so backing them up on Google ensures we don’t lose any and allows for easy sharing. Not to mention, the Google Photo Assistant will automatically create video montages based on location and edits images with filters.

As we anticipate travel with Sophia when she gets to walking stage, we would appreciate any other advice you have for how to manage travel!

So happy to get off that plane!

Eight-month update: Food, fitness and friends at kid’s cafes

Michal holds Sophia up so she can better view a show at a kid’s cafe. 

Kid’s cafes have been a blessing and a curse on our family during this stage of Sophia’s development.

Aside from most likely catching a stomach virus from a cafe (one that’s not featured in this post) that landed both Sophia and I in the hospital, we have been grateful to unleash her in these (mostly) baby-friendly environments that are plentiful in Korea so that she can have stimulation and socialization during these cold winter months.

Let’s recap Sophia’s latest milestones at eight months before reviewing the kid’s cafes, play rooms and baby groups we’ve recently tried in our neighborhood of Hannam-dong/Itaewon.

Welcome to Toddler Transitions

Sophia falls in disbelief as she stood when holding on to the refrigerator door with one hand.

Standing room only
At this age, there is more “awake time” during the day as three naps transition into two naps per day. Sophia hasn’t struggled with staying awake as she continues to be a ball of energy. However, getting her to a quiet, calm state for napping is an almost daily fight. (Another topic for a later blog post: Dealing with those pesky sleep regressions.)

Sophia is more interested or motivated to stand and reach for items once out of her grasp. (Everything just keeps moving to higher shelves, choking hazards and such are locked away, wires are hidden, etc.) We laugh when when daddy comes home from work as she scampers quickly across the floor, mimicking a loyal puppy.

The most significant skill she has acquired this month: She has mastered standing with only one hand resting on something and is now experimenting with standing without any support! She always has an amazed look on her face when she realizes what she is doing.

Sophia tries her first taste of pulled pork at a friend’s first birthday party at the Riverside Hotel in Apgujeong.

Future foodie
She has also eaten a lot of different food as we have made the switch from giving her pureed baby food we make based on the different stages to full-blown baby-led weaning. Some interesting tastes have included bits and pieces of gyro meat from Halal Guys, country fried chicken from Original Pancake House, and edamame from Nori Table. (Can you tell we’re fans of the international food scene of Itaewon?)

Common staples of boiled and pureed foods had been sweet potato, carrot, zucchini and broccoli. Guilty pleasure pre-packaged, no-mess snacks when on-the-go include teething crackers and freeze-dried fruits like persimmon and strawberry and freeze-dried yogurt drops.

Kid’s Places and Spaces in Hannam-dong/Itaewon

Sophia is ready to play! We just arrived a first birthday celebration at Lilliput in Hannam-dong.

Michal and I consider ourselves fairly active people as we took Sophia on her first walk on the Han River when she was less than one week old and went hiking with her in her first month, so we’re not surprised Sophia has become equally as active.

We are also avid restaurant-goers as we’re always interested in the latest place that has opened up and we eat every type of cuisine, so we’re not surprised that Sophia is curious enough to grab at our food.

With our budding hiker / future foodie, we’ve found that the best way to cultivate her sense of adventure is through the cafe culture of Seoul. Kid’s cafes are like a more sophisticated version of the American Chuck E. Cheese or the McDonald’s Play Place. In this blog post, I’ll also mention free community center, as well as paid members-only, play rooms in our area that we frequent.

When you can’t leave the house, get creative:

Sophia climbs on top of the “steps” we made by folding up play mats. She snags a turtle from an ottoman and brings it over to her kid couch.

With bad air quality and dropping temps, we’ve found ourselves indoors too often than we’d like. Out of cabin fever/boredom, inspiration is born.

Based on concepts from the internationally recognized Gymboree program and the book Simplicity Parenting, Michal and I try to change out certain toys (rather than dumping all of them out at once) and rearrange the living room/nursery layouts every two weeks now.

Sophia inherently works on different “skills” and has more focused “playtime” when not overwhelmed with too many options.

Lilliput (Hannam-dong branch)

Sophia enjoys climbing up and down through the padded indoor maze and waving/looking through the windows at those passing by when at the Lilliput cafe in Hannam-dong.


  • Gourmet food and adult beverages: Michal and I were impressed with the many restaurant-quality dishes coming out of the kitchen. We saw groups of parents not only sipping lattes and cold-pressed juices over brunch favorites like French Toast, but also enjoying beer and wine over dinner entrees like steak.
The presentation and fresh combination of ingredients put this kid’s cafe at another level.
  • Wide selection of food and snacks for babies: One time we visited, we had a few snacks but didn’t pack enough to satisfy Sophia’s growing appetite. She tried her first prepared baby food here – organic pureed peaches with no sugar added. However, along with the food, it would have been convenient to have a bib and baby utensils. #newparentfail
  • Spotless, bright and decorated beautifully: I love the wide floor to ceiling windows that bring in lots of natural light. There is also an abundance of staff to clean (counted a handful of times I saw them vacuuming while I was there during a birthday party), greet, serve, make food and drinks – even play with the kids! One of my all-time fav kid’s cafe moments with staff was when I saw my friend’s two-year-old drove past us in a car with a staff member in the backseat.
Sophia is ready to go after a long afternoon of playing. We just put her into her snowsuit in the lobby area.
  • Lockers for shoes and slippers are provided: I appreciate how they even have miniature chairs for the LOs so it’s easier to put on their socks and shoes.
  • Variety of toys and play areas for every age: Little pieces, like from the Lego building area, are separated so choking hazards for LOs are safely segregated.




  • “Nursing room” AKA re-purposed bathroom closet: Whenever I see these types of depressing hole-in-the-wall situations, I’d rather just nurse out in public no matter how faux pas it’s considered. No natural light, very little space and not much to look at.
  • Restroom is a bit difficult to use with baby: I wished there was a baby chair in the bathroom stall so it would be easy to use but they do provide a toddler toilet.
  • In need of crowd control: It’s extremely popular for a reason, but then it gets way too busy for a LO of Sophia’s age when it’s afternoon and on the weekend. Go early before it’s overrun. It feels like there should be an enforced capacity limit like how adults are bounced at the doorway of a nightclub.
This little guy wanted to join us in playing with these magnetic toy in the upper level of the Lilliput play structure in Hannam-dong. He kind of took over while we watched.

Hours of operation
Monday to Friday 11 a.m. to 9 p.m., Saturday and Sunday 10:30 a.m. to 9 p.m.

Basement 1 85 Dokseodang-ro (Hannam-dong)Seoul, Yongsan-gu
서울 용산구 독서가로 85 (한남동) 지하1층

It’s in a back alley behind the main road of Hannam-daero and across from U.N. Village. It will be about a 10-15-minute walk from Hannam subway station. There’s valet parking and it’s on the ground level with stroller ramp.


  • Free admission for children under 12 months. (Yay for us!) 1,000 won for every additional 10 minutes.
  • 12,000 won for two hours of playtime for children 1-8 years old and under 125 c.m. tall. 1,000 won for every additional 10 minutes.
  • Adults have free admission with purchase of a beverage or meal. (Trust me- You’ll be happy to drink or dine here, so not a big deal.)

Petit 5 (in the Passion 5 building)

Sophia cautiously plays with one of the few baby-friendly toys at Petit 5 in Itaewon.


  • Very easily accessible on Itaewon-ro, near Hangangjin subway station. Entrance is on the ground floor and there is an elevator up to the fourth floor.
  • Adorable desserts like gourmet animal crackers and cupcakes – Wouldn’t expect less from a kid’s cafe housed in the same building as the famous dessert lover’s dream of Passion 5.
  • Lots of space among the tables with some play areas interspersed among the dining area and a variety of high-chairs.
  • Nursing room is one of my all-time favs: It’s a corner area blocked off with screen doors that has a round table and chairs so mom can converse with others and eat or read while nursing – rather than being sequestered from society. There was a very high quality swing for a baby to chill in, operated by the baby’s weight. The view was of the showpiece black chandelier on the outside/middle of the circular building.


  • In the end, it’s mostly a showroom for expensive baby clothes.
  • Shoes are allowed which feels very unsanitary for a LO crawling on the ground and wanting to put everything in her mouth.
  • There are not many padded areas or toys for babies under one year old.
  • Desserts seemed more like the star of the show on the menu rather than substantial meal items. Kids (and adults) hopped up on sugar = unhealthy and bound for a crash.
  • Restroom is a bit difficult to use with baby: I again wished there was a baby chair in the bathroom stall so it would be easy to use, but they did provide a nice changing table, a toddler toilet and a toddler urinal (so thoughtful!) in the women’s bathroom.
These elementary-age kids were running around in circles but took interest in Sophia when they noticed her playing on her own.

Hours of operation
All seven days of the week – 11 a.m. to 8 p.m.

4F, 272 Itaewon-ro, Yongsan-gu


  • If taking public transit: Go out of exit 3 of Hangangjin subway station and walk straight. The black wavy glass building will be on your left.
  • Valet parking is free for the first hour and 1,000 won per 10 minutes.
  • Garage parking is free for the first hour and 500 won per 10 minutes.

5,000 won per hour per child with a paying adult (a drink or food item). We went when it wasn’t busy – right when it opened during the week, so they said not to worry about paying for my LO.

Yongsan-gu Healthy Family Support Center (in the new Hannam-dong Community Center)


  • Close to my house 🙂 – about five-minute walk up the hill toward Itaewon if coming from the direction of Soon Chun Hyang University Hospital
  • Free to use
  • Organized meet-up group on Mondays, which has helped to created a regular community. I’ve met and strengthened friendships with moms of babies of similar ages through this group, as I’ve known many of them already through expat mom circles that include childbirth classes, yoga classes, etc.
  • Community center is generous and thoughtful with providing free instant coffee, tea and basic snacks for moms like crackers or cookies during our meetings. Sometimes, we get other baby freebies like handkerchiefs and bibs from the community center.
  • Mini-fridge and bottle sanitizer, along with tons of books for babies and moms to read – but all are in Korean.
  • Lots of toys for varying age range and padding on floor
  • Public restroom on the floor has a nice changing table and a baby chair in the stall so it’s easy to use the toilet while keeping an eye baby, plus there are toddler toilets/stalls.


  • Very small so not meant for big groups or older toddlers
  • Toys are of varying quality
  • Not open on weekends or after normal office hours

Hours of operation
Monday to Friday 9 a.m. to 6 p.m.

용산구 이태원로 224-19 (한남동)
Yongsan-gu, Itaewon-ro 224-19 (Hannam-dong)

From Itaewon subway station, take exit 3 and walk straight on Itaewon-ro (about 10 minutes) toward Hangangjin subway station, just past the Cheil building or until you see Ganges Indian Cuisine directly in front of you.

At that point, cross toward the restaurant, but stop on that little sidewalk island in the middle of the road and take that to your right, all the way to the end. You’ll find yourself in front of the old Hannam-dong Jumin Center. If you turn to your left, you’ll see the new building.

Go into the shiny new building and take the elevator to the third floor. Look for the sign for the Yongsan-gu Healthy Family Support Center and make a right through the clear glass doors. Look for the room with a cabinet for storing shoes before going into it.


  • Free to use the room
  • There is parking available under the building, and it costs about 3,000 won per hour.

Yongan-gu Support Center for Childcare (in the Yongsan-gu District Office Building)

Sophia discovers that these wooden blocks are actually magnetic and stick to the board. She is actually on the second level of the expansive playroom in the Yongsan District Office.


  • Very easily accessible on Itaewon-ro near Noksapyeong subway station
  • Free to use
  • Lots of toys for all babies and toddlers up to age 5
  • Separate comfortable nursing room for moms (doubling as general eating area for BYO food) that includes feeding high chairs, changing tables, a crib, microwave and couches
  • So much variety in general with multiple “floors” and padded play structures as well as stations for building, reading, music, writing on white boards, etc.
This area on the second level of the play structure was targeted more toward older kids with the kitchen, dress-up wardrobe, etc. but this pre-school aged pal wanted Sophia to join her playing make-believe.

Not open on weekends or after normal office hours

Hours of operation
Monday to Friday 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. with an observed lunch break for employees from 12-1 p.m. – Must sign in with attendant before use.

Level 5 of the Yongsan-gu Office, 150 Noksapyung-daero, Yongsan-gu, Seoul, 140-704

It’s a 10-minute walk going South of the Noksapyeong subway station out of Exit 3.

Make sure to go to the entrance of the larger, taller building as there are many smaller buildings within this complex.

There are two sets of elevators in the building. Depending on which set you take, you will either come out and see the playroom doors directly to your left or you will see a paper sign with a yellow arrow to the right of the elevator doors. The arrows will lead you to the playroom.

There is a parking area for strollers and storage for your shoes. The attendant will be just inside the doors.


  • Free to use the room
  • There is parking available under the building, and it should cost similarly to the other government building at about 3,000 won per hour.

Gymboree (Hannam-dong branch)

Sophia and I stand in the middle of the indoor playground at the Gymboree in Hannam-dong on a Saturday afternoon. Although design is simple, play spaces are interactive and physical.

Please note: We have only visited during open gym time when classes aren’t in session. Sophia and I are excited to start an English-speaking class for 6- to 14-month-olds next month.


  • Weekly classes are very intentional and educational based on cognitive developmental stages. Open gym time (usually at least one hour per day) allows members to use the indoor, padded playground space.
  • Varied themes and layout of playground as staff changes layout every two weeks.
  • More opportunity to create a community by bonding with baby and with other moms, as well as opportunity for baby to build social skills. We became fast friends with parents of babies who are similar in age as we would routinely use the open gym time and meet for lunch afterward.
  • By making it a members-only environment and limiting hours of use, it’s hardly crowded nor dangerous for crawling LOs.


  • Cost is expensive compared to other options
  • Open time to use the indoor playground is limited to specific hours of the day when there isn’t a class.
  • No food available but it is near many decent (although sometimes overpriced) Western-style restaurants in U.N. Village area.
We joined other families after the open gym time for dim sum across the street from the Gymboree. These little ones are anxiously await food!

Hours of operation
approximately 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. but call ahead to double-check regarding class schedules and open gym times as they change seasonally

4th floor of Hyundai Liberty House, 70, Dokseodang-ro, Yongsan-gu, Seoul, Korea
or 258 Hannam-dong (old address system)

You can find it easily on the corner of the main road Hannam-daero near Hannam-daegyo. Take the elevator to the fourth floor. (There is free validated parking in the basement.)


  • 420,000 won for one session of 12 classes and use of the play gym during free hours, plus 50,000 won for the membership enrollment
  • Offered 20 percent discount with the holiday season
  • Continual offering of 10 percent discount if registering for three sessions at once